For those who believe you should “fake it ‘til you make it” this post is not for you.  This post is for those who refuse to “fake it.”  It is for those who will boldly and unapologetically state: I don’t want to appear to be someone I’m not.  I don’t want to fake feelings I don’t really feel.  I don’t want to fake circumstances that do not make up my reality.  I want to be as authentic and honest as I can possibly be about who I really am, who I am becoming, where I really am in life, as well as be genuine about what I really feel and think, particularly where communicating with and relating to those closest to me are concerned.  

This post is for you who will agree that at some point in your time on this planet as an adult you’ve struggled with emotions, situations or people who have tainted, weakened, or stolen or who have threatened to taint, weaken or steal your joy, peace, happiness, bliss, confidence …  It is for you who believe it unnecessary and unhealthy to mask your feelings, whatever those feelings may be, by “faking it” or by acting like you have it all together or that all is swell in your world.  It is for you who are real enough or honest enough with yourselves to, without fear or shame, come out of your world of pretense and make-believe and proclaim: I am a work-in-progress!  My life is under construction!  So please, please, everyone just be patient with me!  God is not through with me yet!”[1] 

Now, in no way does adhering to the above mean you should walk around announcing or brazenly blaring to the world your feelings and thoughts all of the time or just because you feel like it.  That’s not what I’m saying.  What I’m saying is that those who often “wear the mask that grins and lies,”[2] those who have a penchant and, indeed, a skill for masquerading their true feelings or actual circumstances, they need to remove the mask or layers of masks they’ve been hiding behind and deal sincerely with the feelings, thoughts, issues, people, and situations they’re dodging, denying, minimizing, covering up, and/or pretending don’t exist and stop believing in and practicing the “fake it ‘til you make it” way of life.   

Instead, be encouraged in being yourself at all times, in embracing your transitory reality at all times, no matter how uncomfortable, displeasing, dissatisfying or even horrible doing either may be.  Redirect all the time, energy, and/or resources you normally would spend on faking it, whatever “it” is, on actually making “it” happen, making “it” a reality.  One of the ways you do this is by realizing that:

“The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible.”  David Viscott

Love, Healing, Blessings, and Peace

Your Holistic Encourager 

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[1] “Please Be Patient With Me” is a gospel song written by James Cleveland.

[2] This quote is from a poem by Paul Laurence Dunbar titled: “We Wear the Mask.”